Meltdown Days

Today is August 23, what should have been my mother-in-law's 61st birthday. Sadly she is not here to celebrate it. On top of which yesterday was the 9th anniversary of my grandmother's death. This delightful combination is the perfect setup that is necessary to create a massive meltdown on my part. Add a side of stomach flu, and touch of trying to have a baby for 2 1/2 years and I think I am dangerous. Not to mention I have a 3 yr old who freaks out when cry, a husband I feel I need to be strong for, after all it was his mom. But sometimes I feel strangely selfish and territorial about her. Weird I know. So I try to reconcile these feelings inside myself and will try to only cry in the shower or when I am doing laundry, since no one pays attention to me then. Two amazing women no longer in my life and that my son will never know. He met his "Grandma Linda" but was not even 2 when she passed, and I worry he will not remember her. As for my grandma she has always been his angel. My life was blessed by these women and it saddens me that they are not here anymore. It hurts my heart that these women are not here to see my son grow up. I believe that they are watching over us, but that doesn't change that I wish they were here. So to both of these amazing women: I love you and I miss you!

Thoughts on Regret

Recently a good friend of mine lost her father suddenly and tragically. She wrote a blog about him and how she felt about him, including her regrets. It got me thinking, if God forbid, something happened to my dad, what would my regrets be? My dad and I have had a complicated and sometimes painful relationship. I think, because we are very much a like, a fact I have only recently come to realize. In the almost 4 years since my son was born, our relationship has been better than it has ever been. But, because I never really spent that much time with him, or called him on a regular basis, I still don't. That is not to say that I don't love and adore him, because I do. Its just that seeing or speaking to him was never part of my routine. This saddens me even now, because the best memories I have of my childhood are of my relationship with my grandfather, and feel like my history with my dad may be depriving my son of the same relationship. I guess you can say my friend's loss has opened my eyes to what my regrets are and would be. I know that nothing can change the rocky road my dad and I traveled in the past but I can make the effort to change the future and give my son the opportunity to have a wonderful relationship with his grandfather, and myself the chance to make sure that I am not left with any regrets. Life is short, we are not promised tomorrow and should try our best to let people we love know how we feel about them.

Capital One - Problems with a CAPITAL P!

I am totally frustrated with Capital One! My husband has an account with them that happens to be in his name only. We are pretty diligent about paying this card on time. The payments are pretty low and we would like to keep it that way. A couple of months after we got the card we had an issue where all of a sudden a bunch of past due charges showed up out of the blue. Luckily I keep meticulous records on when I pay things, how much and the confirmation number. So I call to find out what is going on, my husband of course had to authorize them to speak with me, we were able to fix the problem and the erroneous charges were removed. Then 2 months ago I paid the bill on the due date, and a few days later found that we had both an overdue fee and an overlimit fee. I again called, again my husband had to authorize them to speak with me. I spoke to the first agent and she said there was nothing that she could do, she was very snooty and rude. I asked to speak to a supervisor who argued over when I had paid with me. He also told me there was nothing that he could do, that his "system" would not allow him to issue a credit for the charges. He also at one point was laughing at me. I asked to talk to his supervisor. She was wonderful, she issued the credit without a problem and the call ended with me having a positive view of Capital One. Last month I made sure that I paid the bill several days in advance and there was no problem. This month I was sick and did not pay the bill until the day that it was due, and once again I have a past due charge. GRRRRRR! So again I have to call and get it corrected the only problem is that my husband has to be here, because for some reason they can't manage to make a note of the fact that he has authorized me as someone who can make changes and call about issues on this account. It is extremely frustrating! I just don't understand why or how I can be charged past due fees when I make the payment on the due date! It just doesn't make any sense. At any rate I get to have another chat with Capital One agents, lets hope this time I get some one with a BRAIN! Or at least a heart!

One small step for chubby girls, one giant leap over skinny b*tches

I am definitely on the Winokur Wave!

I LOVE that Marisa Jaret Winokur is on Dancing With the Stars. It is a step in the right direction! It is so nice to see someone who looks like me on TV. I had almost forgotten that there are women out there like me, my brain has been so over run by starving stick thin shells of women. HOORAY for the fat girls of the world. Between Ugly Betty and Dancing with the Stars I think that we can change the face of TV! Plus it was an added bonus to see the look on Karina's face when Marisa was told she was staying and they were in the bottom 2!

Wouldn't it be amazing if our children grew up watching a TV that was a true representation of the world around them. I know I know people are gonna say that it is not healthy to be overweight. But not being overweight does not mean being a size 2. There are many of us out there that could live off of 3 peanuts and a bottle of water for the rest of our lives and NEVER be a size 2. Besides which some of us are not meant to be super skinny. I know that when I have been thin, if I lost too much weight I looked ridiculous. Yes, be healthy. but don't force yourself to be a size 2.

So HOORAY for beautifully plump women everywhere, WE ROCK!

Inmate No. 28301-016

It is late I should be sleeping, but as I sit here hands shaking, tears filling my eyes I wonder how I will ever get a good nights sleep again. I am in shock and disbelief that the President saw fit to commute the sentence of Scooter Libby. W. stated that the sentence of 30 months in prison was too harsh. Too harsh, for a man that obstructed justice in a case that put a woman's life in grave danger in order to get back at her husband. According to W. the felony conviction, fine, and probation are sufficient. On what planet is that sufficient? And since he is in such a forgiving mood why has he not pardoned or commuted the sentences of the soldiers convicted in the Abu Ghraib scandal. Soldiers who by the way were only following orders - doing their jobs. Isn't that the reason behind commuting Libby's sentence. Does the president think that the whole country is so stupid as to believe that this is not simply payment for services rendered. Come on the man took the fall for Cheney and Rove. He probably found out who the CIA operative was at the same time everyone else did. Unfortunately the people don't have to be stupid anymore, we are so distracted by stories of heiresses in and out of prison, so called "stars" in various states of intoxication in and out of rehab and the paternity scandal of a woman who died tragically yes but is all this newsworthy. The media has become a never ending episode of the Jerry Springer Show. So because we are so distracted by this nonsense we don't notice what is really important. Even respected newsman Larry King lowered his standards to include Larry Birkhead the world famous "Baby Daddy" and Paris Hilton. Not only that but when news people don't want to cover such mularky they are ridiculed and held as public fodder on You Tube. I am deeply saddened by the unfolding events, the war, the commutation of sentences, secrets, lies, and misdirection that has become the country that I LOVE. In closing a quote from Benjamin Franklin "The man who trades FREEDOM for security, does not deserve, nor will he receive either."

Why I Love Rosie O.

I was saddened to hear that I would no longer see Rosie on The View. I have to admit it was refreshing to hear someone actually challenge the media coverage, and the policies surrounding the Iraq war. I know that she was going to leave the show at the end of next month but I had looked forward to seeing her until that time. It saddens me that she has been so criticized by the media and how so many of her comments and opinions have been taken out of context and twisted to justify the viscious name calling and character assasination she has endured since joining The View. I had not watched The View in several years until Rosie joined the panel. She made the show interesting and seemed to be the only person willing and able to shut Elizabeth up, or at least stop the constant flow of Bush propaganda. She made the show intellectual and thought provoking something I have not seen since Elizabeth joined the show. I hate to hear people say that Rosie is angry and out of control. Why? Could it be because she is simply not accepting the spoonfuls of horse manure that is being served up to the American people as top shelf caviar. I am angry too! It breaks my heart to know that our soldiers are in a foreign country fighting a war of choice not necessity and NOONE is willing to stand up and say NO MORE. Well Rosie did and it made me feel like my voice was not so small or in such a minority. I wish that more of us felt one ounce of the courage the Rosie showed each and every day. If we as American's stood up and with one voice said NO, this administration would have to listen. I hope that Rosie will continue to lead charge against this administration that has lied to us, left our soldiers in hell, and not given their fallen comrades the recognition, and respect they deserve. I hope that she will continue to shed light on the fact that the care given to our returning servicemen and women, both medical and emotional is extremely lacking, and that she will never stop asking for the impeachment of a president who has done nothing but lie for the last 4 years.

LOVE YOU ROSIE! KEEP UP THE FIGHT, I WILL BE A SOLDIER IN YOUR ARMY ANYTIME!